I have always had an issue with this. And now that I have a daughter who is coming up to the supposed age of " Accountability" in the Church. And that is turning 8 years old.
I am going to be more vocal about it. This has to stop.
Many of you have had to answer these awkward, personal questions while you were single and even while married. How did it make you feel growing up? Did you feel shame? Worthless? Unworthy of being a son or daughter of Heavenly Father? Did you have a constant fear or damnation? I am sure you experienced some aspect of all of those. I know I did. Was I ever 100% truthful. No. Why would I be? When the shame and embarrassment that was in my mind was way worse than the punishment that the Bishop or Stake President would give me. It messed me up for years.
My tipping point about this happened years ago when one of my GF's decided to tell her Bishop that we were sexually active and he summoned her to a Church Court. I went along for support and I was also in the ward boundaries so a member of the ward as well. She had no idea what she was in for. We walked into a room of 6 men. I am glad I was there. Imagine how she would have felt if she was alone with them all.
They started with small talk and then got to the heart of the so called problem. They started asking the basic moral questions and then they started asking for details. I was pissed. After a few minutes of this I stood up and said, " We were done. I was not going to sit her and give them details or ideas for them to try and that they were just getting off behind the table". We left.
I was steaming. I promised myself that day that any of my kids would never be subjected to that sort of questioning.
I do not see any point of why its any of the Leaders or higher ups business of what goes on in your personal, sexual life that is a natural, emotional feeling that is God given.
These Men/Leaders have no training. Are not qualified. Are not called of God or have any real spiritual power over you. They have a mental control that is passed down from generations of indoctrination and learned response from following family/parental examples. It starts in Nursery and continues.
Do not let your children be asked questions that made yourself uncomfortable. Age 8 is not old enough to know what sex even is. Hell even some 18 year old's have no idea.
The Church pushes and makes sex a disgusting thing. Just listen to Elisabeth Smart and how she felt at first when she was kidnapped and raped. What she was taught in young women and how much that hurt her emotionally and made her feel to what she is teaching now.
Take time out and sign this petition that is going to be sent to the Church to stop these types of questions.
Quote of the Day:
"God is not a prude: This is why religion remains so sex-obsessed, why we pretend Jesus was born of a virgin."
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