Sunday, October 4, 2015

Am I Losing others because of Who I am?????

The title says it all.

Recently, i have received some emails from some long time friends who have decided to throw away our friendship because as they say " I am not living how i am supposed to".  Some of you can probably already guess what that "living" pertains to. Yep, the Church.

I am not going to delve much into it. I am just going to say that over the past few months i have decided for MYSELF and MY Spirituality that i am no longer going to be a participant. I don't need to raise my hand and be counted, i don't need to be a number.

Most of you know that i have struggled life long with the Church. Its nothing new. And that is the most shocking part of these emails. They have known me pretty much my whole life and they are letting go of our friendship over me not wanting to attend a Church.  The one bad part of the emails that they have brought up, is that because of my attitude and as they say "EGO" on how i chose to live my spiritual life and mortal life that God is punishing Liz and making her sick because of it.  And on that i call Bull shit. I have never been taught that God will punish someone else for my misgivings.  Where did they come up with that???

How dare they even try to guilt me into coming back that way.  I look on them saying that and realize that the ones who need God in their lives is them. They need to look at what they are thinking and saying and evaluate their standards and morals.

As stated in the Bible:

Deuteronomy 24:16
Parents are not to be put to death for their children, nor children put to death for their parents; each will die for their own sin.

Ezekiel 18:20
The one who sins is the one who will die. The child will not share the guilt of the parent, nor will the parent share the guilt of the child. The righteousness of the righteous will be credited to them, and the wickedness of the wicked will be charged against them.

So Liz is not being punished for my lack of attending Church or following its teachings. And whoever thinks that, is an Idiot.

I am living the best i can. I pray, i believe in God, Heaven and Hell. But i also garner inspiration from a whole other area of religions and life. I learn new and exciting things daily. That is what life should be like.

 I am thankful that i grew up in the Church. I am grateful for the standards that it taught me. But i no longer need it to hold me up. I have found God and my spirit and i am happy being me. And if you can't accept that and want to end our friendship that is fine, that is your decision. I have never once cared how any of you were spiritually, if you attended Church, if you paid your tithing. I only cared about YOU and how your health, family and kids were. I have not changed. I am the same person you have always known.  Just a little heavier.  I have always thought of your friendships as life long. Even though we might not see each other daily, or just on facebook, or have not since high school the friendships and feelings have not left. I enjoy hearing from all of you.

I also want to thank you who have asked about Liz and have written, shared, donated and asked about her. We appreciate it so much. This year has been hard.  We continue to live day to day. We never know what the next one will bring. She has been to the ER countless times this year, the ICU a few times and has had some really scary incidents where we both thought that this was the last time we would see each other. Please continue to pray for her. And if you can donate, please do. Continue to share her page and story.


  1. You're absolutely right. It's the same narrative that makes sure that we indoctrinate the young women that they have to be modest so that the boys don't have impure thoughts. Holy crap - way to teach the opposite of what you want. You're actually teaching that girls bodies are so much of a sexual object that they can't control the effect they have on boys - who always and only think about sex so much that it becomes the girls' responsibility to save the boys from themselves. It's a whole bunch of nonsense. I'm sorry that your "friends" have chosen the insensitive path. Sending love to you as you and your wife go through this challenging time.

    1. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and pointing out that the Church teaches this. Everyone is born with a sexual identity and way about them. its a natural DNA occurrence. It can't be shut off willy nilly or blamed on the opposite sex.

  2. I admire your strength. I wish you and your family all the best. It is sad that 'friends' will chose to treat you and your wife this way... this says a lot more about them than aboout you, and what it says it not so nice.
    It is strange that it is in the difficult times that we learn who is a true friend and who is not... I too have experienced this.
    Anyway... just a cheerful 'HELLO" from waaaay up north (Canada)
    All the best !

    1. Yeah, my true friends are still with me. Its funny to me that they have known me pretty much my whole life and this finally happened. Hmm... I guess conference is a big influence and they had to release all the negativity in their lives.