Thursday, February 25, 2016

Getting Rid of Baggage

I have recently taken steps to rid myself of negativity and emotional baggage.  It actually was easier than i thought it would be.

I got off of Facebook. I have tried this once before and it was good for a while. But i got back on to just give updates on Liz’s health and then it snowballed from there.  I would comment on stories or links and and share my opinions and it just got out of hand with people taking offense and not taking the time to see both sides to a discussion. It caused some people to end friendships and attack me personally and I did not see the need to continue that.   I know that I have said that if you get offended by anything i write or say its on YOU and not me, and for the most part that is true, but I also have to have peace of mind with myself and if I hurt others and make them feel anger or animosity than thats different to me.  We do not have to agree on everything, but when it starts getting to areas where things are said that are hurtful and mean than its time to step back and see what is really behind that. And it is usually not the subject being discussed.  So I decided to quit Facebook cold-turkey. Its been great.

I have had some pent up emotional issues/memories from past problems. I held on to them for far to long. I have let them go. There was no reason to hold on to them. I let them run through my mind for years and it affected me because of it. I feel like a big weight has been lifted. Will i forget? No. But I will not harbor them. They will come and go.  I need the extra space that is now opening up for new uplifting memories.

The journey of bettering myself continues.

Quote of the Day:

“Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you're doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.” - Joel Osteen

Video of the Day:

Lost in the Echo - Linkin Park

Thursday, February 18, 2016

Are you Offended?????

I have never been one to hide how i feel.  You could read it on my face, actions, demeanor or when i verbally expressed myself.  To me that is one of the best things about living in America. You have the choice to do whatever you want.

For the past few weeks I have read and heard a lot of discouraging news. Its hard to see what the world is developing into. Its a place where if someone is “offended”, it has to get changed immediately to appease them. We are trying to accommodate everyone and all that leads to is more laws because one group feels that another is getting better treatments. It is a never ending cycle.

One thing that really irritates me is at my work.  There are a few people who are “worried” about offending someone/group if we get American Flags on our uniforms. Are you kidding me?  We live in America. Its the USA.  I have said from the first day that I started working at CVTD we needed Flags on our uniform. I could care less who it offends.  I am glad that there is an overwhelming vote for YES to the Flags.

Being a driver I deal with many different types of people, races, backgrounds and I try to give each and every one of them respect. But that respect needs to go both ways.  I have never gone up to the guy who has a swastika tattooed on his head that he needs to cover it up. Its his decision to be who he is. Do i agree with it. NO. Its a choice that we make daily on who we want to be.  I never get on the mic and say that passengers have to speak English only. I am glad that i know some of the slang and swear words, because I can dissuade that.

I feel that one of the most damaging things that constantly go on is the Push and Pull from all the political parties. They all want the same result in helping America become better, but they go about it is such asinine ways that nothing gets accomplished without someone insulting the other. Its a Cycle.  We are trying to accommodate every ones feelings and place them into laws and amendments and it will never work the way they want.

I have thought about getting into Politics, but i do know that my persona would rub people the wrong way. I go with my gut. I will listen to both sides and decide for myself.  I would not last long. I would upset many groups.  Plus I don’t have the stamina to go around in circles in a debate.

Quote of the Day:

“If you're not offending one group of people, you're not entertaining the other."

-Blake Shelton-

Friday, February 5, 2016

Decluttering my Mind

These past few weeks I have had the chance to clear my mind of many stresses, thoughts and constant worries. Its been very theraputic for me to post on this blog. It has helped me get feelings out.

I have always been a thinker. I would worry and constantly go over things in my head. Liz says that I think too much. And I do. I am trying to be better at that. I always have to look at all the sides of anything to make sure that its good, will work, or what needs to be done.

This is my year of CHANGE. It is happening faster than i expected. It has been very nice to see my attitude change for the better. I don't worry as much. I don't complain as much. Most things are seemingly falling into place without much effort. Its new to me, but also exciting. I hope people can see it or sense it.

I don't want to be the same untactful, say what i think at all times person.

I know I will still have the occasional cluttered mind. But now I know that i can control and push them out. I will keep pushing myself daily to be better and to continue my overall Change.

I found this list of ways to help declutter and I have it saved in my phone so I can have it as a reminder:

Quote of the Day:

" The more I examine the issue of clutter, the more effort I put into combating it, because it really does act as a weight." - Gretchen Rubin

Song of the Day:

Follow your Arrow - Kacey Musgraves